Sillidays: National Cheeseburger Day

 

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Labor Day may be over, but there’s no better day for a BBQ burger than National Cheeseburger Day!  I personally enjoy a good veggie cheese burger with  a Garden Veggie Patty from MorningStar Farms®.  What’s your favorite?

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For the month of September, Friendship Month here on Playing Grown-Ups, I will be posting on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays. Stay ‘tooned tomorrow for a brand new post!

~ Sherri <3

 

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TIPS: Letting Go of Poisonous Pals

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When it comes to friendships, everything I’d been taught growing up is to be a loyal, good friend. Talk out your problems, come to a resolution, and move on. Friends Forever, right?

However, sometime a friendship no longer works. A friend has become increasingly negative…or overly critical…consistently unreliable…jealous of your successes…passively aggressive in communication…or has in some other way become poisonous to your well-being. Or, perhaps you have simply just grown apart. Sometimes, it’s okay to let go of a once-dear friend. Here are a few tips I’ve found helpful in dealing with this painful situation:

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TIP #5 – ADDRESS THE ISSUE:
Often an issue that arises in a friendship is a solvable problem, stemming from unexpressed issues or expectations on your end or theirs. Communication is key – be open with your friend.

TIP #6 – GIVE IT TIME: If your pal is aware of the situation and nothing changes after a period of time, then…

TIP #7 – GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO LET GO: I don’t know about you, but I feel so guilty any time I do anything that may hurt other people. Come to grips with the fact that this is the healthiest decision for you (AND your friend, because nobody wants to be stuck in an insincere friendship).

TIP #8 – GET CLOSURE: Have an open conversation, write a letter, or let a friendship fade out naturally, but make sure you handle it in the way that works for you. I’ve spent more times post-friendships stressing out about the lost friendship because it still felt unresolved, or I was afraid to fully resolve an issue being too afraid of hurting a “poisonous pal” by saying what I truly felt (in a truthful, kind, caring way, of course!).
***It’s never a good idea to use a third party for getting closure. There is no need to involve any mutual friend in your business. There just isn’t.***

TIP #9 – MOURN YOUR LOSS: Losing a friendship, whether it was your choice or not, is a very difficult adjustment. The friendship you knew and loved is gone forever. Take some time to come to terms with it if you need to; it’s okay. But time truly does heal all wounds.

As hard as it is to lose or hurt a friend, realize it’s the best for everybody’s well-being. And if you do see your poisonous pal in the future, just be polite and kind. Because really, do you need to be anything else?

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Playing Grown-Ups will only be posting three times a week for the month of September: Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays. Come back tomorrow to see what’s new!

~ Sherri <3

 

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Friendship Weekly Challenge #3: Let Go of An “Anchor”

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The best part about friends are that, unlike relatives, difficult bosses, annoying co-workers, or bad neighbors, they are the people you CHOOSE to have in your life. Your friends are people who are supposed to have your back, tell you when you’re doing something counter-productive, and bring out the best in you. They are meant to enhance your life in a positive way.

So what if one of your friends is bringing constant stress and/or negativity into your life? I like to consider friends to be my life-jackets, the people who keep me afloat in the turbulent sea of life. When a friend does nothing but bring you down, they are more like an “anchor”, who are causing you to sink. I once had a friend who I realized I stayed in touch with solely because I knew the friendship meant a lot to her. In reality, I was afraid to say anything about my career or social life, because she’d be jealous if anything good happened to me. She was also incredibly negative, so I felt like I was hanging around Debbie Downer. Her “commentary” on my life was neither helpful nor necessary. It was easier to stay friends before the “real world” kicked in, and this negative friendship began to affect my sleep and work quality, and my overall well-being. As soon as I realized that she was not truly my friend, I realized  the relationship eventually dissipated. (This was a lot easier to do pre-Facebook, I promise you!)

Maybe you’re lucky, and your life is set. Your friends are great, and a complete support team. But as life evolves, friends tend to pop in and out. If there’s someone who’s been holding you back, perhaps it’s time to just let go and move on. Having 500 “friends” on Facebook doesn’t mean you have to be best friends with all of them. Alternatively, if you feel like a bad situation with a friend has been weighing you down, make time for that important conversation to try to right the wrongs. Or, if you’ve already been mourning the loss of a former friendship, spend this time focusing on the friends who are true to you. Whatever your “anchor” is, let it go, and put your mind-set back on the right track.

Stay ‘tooned later this week for some tips on how to let go of a “poisonous pal”, or a friendship that has fizzled out.

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Week #3: LET GO OF AN “ANCHOR”

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Sillidays: Roald Dahl Day

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One of my biggest influences growing up was the author Roald Dahl.  I devoured all of his books, and read them over and over again.  His humor and silliness shaped not only my love of literature, but my sense of humor in everyday life. I have to admit, even at 9 years old it blew my mind how he came up with the idea for “frobscottle”, the fizzy drink that bubbles down instead of up and comes out the form of “whizzpopping” – burping from, well, “the other end”.

I also adored the movie adaptations of his books – I mean, who DOESN’T love Gene Wilder as Willy Wonka, or found Anjelica Huston to be deliciously creepy in The Witches.  Matilda came out not too long after I’d read the book, which utilizes some memorable songs I still associate with the scenes that accompanied them (such as this or this).

I think I’m going to pick up one of his books this week and re-read them. It’s been quite a while.

So, how much do you love Roald Dahl? What’s your favorite read?

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For the month of September, Friendship Month here on Playing Grown-Ups, I will be posting on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays. Stay ‘tooned tomorrow for a brand new post!

~ Sherri <3

 

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Sillidays: Make Your Bed Day

It’s hard to think of 9/11 as anything more than the day our world changed forever back in 2011. I was in a NY high school during that time, and though nobody I knew personally was killed, people I knew and cared about did lose loved ones that day. I will never forget the fact that my dad took my sister and me out for lunch to a pizza place (we were stranded in Brooklyn, where we both attended school, because all the bridges were closed down and we couldn’t get back home to Staten Island). The pizza place happened to have a clear view of the Manhattan Skyline.  He took us to the middle of the street, which was totally empty, and pointed to the pillars of smoke rising from where the World Trade Center building had been standing proudly a mere few hours before, and told us that this was a moment we’d never forget. And indeed, I never will.

I also had a favorite high school teacher who sat at her desk that day, with a blank stare, thinking, “But…it’s my birthday.” Her kids had planned, for the first time, a surprise party for her that night. But it always struck with me that, although the day was the worst day of my life, life would have to go on. September 11th will always be my beloved teacher’s birthday, as I’m sure is the case for millions of others. I’m positive that plenty of people got married on a September 11th before and after that day, so 9/11 will continue to be an anniversary for couples to celebrate.

It is for that reason that I decided to find a silly holiday to illustrate today. 9/11 will always be remembered as a day of infamy, but it also is known for other special occasions as well. So, for today’s Silliday funny, “real-fake” holiday, I’ve discovered that:

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It’s a simple request that Moms ask kids all over the world: Make Your Bed. Three simple words. Yet how many of us actually DO this small task? The Happiness Project author (and Playing Grown-Ups Interviewee) Gretchen Rubin cites that making the bed is one of the easiest and most important things you can do to make you feel happy and accomplished. This small, easy task can give you a sense of order and control in your otherwise hectic life. Today, let’s show our neglected, unmade beds a little love and make them. If you’re a regular “bed maker-upper”, then give your bed an extra little pat. It’s always a good thing to appreciate the comforts of home, so today love your made-up beds!

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For the month of September, Friendship Month here on Playing Grown-Ups, I will be posting on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays. Stay ‘tooned tomorrow for a brand new post!

~ Sherri <3

 

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TIPS: There’s No “U” in Friendship

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When you’re on the go, juggling career, life, and friendships, it’s easy to forget how to be a good friend. Sometimes, when catching up with friends on the phone, I realize I’d been on the phone for 10 minutes talking about what’s been going on in my life before realizing that I’d yet to hear anything about what’s been going on in theirs.  Friendship is about what you and your friend can do for each other; it’s about balancing each other out. Here are a couple of great reminders about ways to strengthen your friendships:

TIP #3 – BE THOUGHTFUL: Kindness and consideration strengthen a friendship. If you are out food shopping, call a friend who lives nearby and ask if they need anything from the store. Do you see an item of clothing that would look great on a friend? Call them and let them know. Or just send a text to your friend to let them know you’re thinking of them. You’ll be pleasantly surprised at what your friends call YOU with in the future.

TIP #4 – GIVE AND TAKE: Friendship is a two-way street. Don’t monopolize your catch-up time by talking about what’s been going on in your career or personal life. Ask your friends questions, and pay attention to what they have to say. Don’t play with your phone while they talk; really give it your all. Life today is about multitasking, but friendship is about appreciation and communication.

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Friendship Weekly Challenge #2: Send Snail Mail

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Just because technology has changed and people don’t send out letters anymore (except for bills, invitations and thank you/holiday/birthday cards) doesn’t mean receiving the act of receiving a letter in the mail has lost a spark! When’s the last time you received a letter correspondence from a friend?

This week, do something special. Write a letter, on actual paper, and send it out to a friend! Bonus points if you include photos, stickers, or something else fun and kitchy. Most importantly, have fun knowing how big the smile will be on your friend’s face when he/she opens up that letter!

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Week #2: SEND SNAIL MAIL

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TIPS: How to Maintain Friendships in 2013

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Here are some tips on maintaining friendships in 2013:

With so much going on these days, how does one keep up with old friends? (Especially if said friends are not on Facebook or other social media!). Here are a couple helpful tips on keeping friendships fresh in today’s fast-paced world. More tips are to come throughout the month of September, aka Friendship Month here on Playing Grown-Ups:

TIP #1 – KEEP YOUR PROMISES: When you make plans or promises, don’t go back on your word. If you tend to forget things, make a phone reminder- (heck, make 10 if it’ll help!) If you say “I’ll call you back later”, don’t forget. (Again, phone reminders are very handy.) After a while, your words lose meaning, and your friendship value drops. I’ve always hated saying “no” to people, so I tend to be an “over-yesser”. While I do WANT to spend all my time hanging out with friends, I’ve had to scale back when promising get-togethers. I’m trying my best to only make plans when I’m 100% available. It’s hard, but I work on it one phone conversation at a time.

TIP #2 – KEEP COMMUNICATION OPEN: If something is upsetting you in a friendship, tell your friend. If your friend hurt you, don’t be afraid to tell them. Keeping grudges only breeds resentment that can unravel a friendship. If you are going through a tough time, opening up to a friend for advice or help can bring you closer.

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**For the record, Carvel Ice Cream is my most favorite thing in the whole entire world. (Yoo-Hoo is a close second). The first boy in the cartoon does in no way reflect this website’s feelings at ALL.**

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Playing Grown-Ups will only be posting three times a week for the month of September: Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays. Come back on Monday to see what’s new! 

~ Sherri <3

 

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Sillidays: National Skyscraper Day

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 One of my most favorite things ever is celebrating “unofficial” holidays. I’m sure by now you all are well acquainted with Talk Like a Pirate Day (September 19th, for those who arrrrren’t sure! =0P). Well, there are websites full of these “real fake” holidays, which range from National Waffle Day (August 24th) to Elephant Appreciation Day (September 22nd).

In the spirit of good ol’ fun, I’ll be making these “Silliday” (aka Silly Day) illustrations in celebration of some of these random days. However, the frequency of these illustrations will be based on you! I will start with one fun “Silliday” illustration celebration per week. If you like it, share it! The more ‘likes’ and ‘shares’ these posts get, the more frequently these holidays will be posted.

As a former New Yorker, I felt that this was a terrific fun holiday to celebrate. My favorite skyscrapers were, without a doubt, the World Trade Center Towers. It still feels strange crossing the Verrazano Narrows Bridge or seeing the Manhattan skyline from another vantage point and not seeing the gigantic Twin Towers proudly standing tall. I don’t think I’ll ever get used to the fact that they’re forever gone. So National Skyscraper Day makes me a tad nostalgic for the Empire State, and the people in it.

What does National Skyscraper Day mean to you? What is your favorite skyscraper? Share your thoughts!

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For the month of September, Friendship Month here on Playing Grown-Ups, I will be posting on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays. Stay ‘tooned tomorrow for a brand new post!

~ Sherri <3

 

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Friendship Weekly Challenge #1: Catch Up With Calls/Messages

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With so much going on in today’s world, and so many distractions, it’s so easy to tell a friend “I’ll call you right back”, and then completely forget about it. How many friendships have you strained because you have yet to call someone back?

Well, the people procrastination ends now! Write a list of all the friends you owe phone calls, e-mails, texts, or any other form of communication with. Set a little time aside each day to catch up with them. Pretty soon your I.O.U.’s will be N.O. More! You’ll strengthen your friendships and feel a whole lot less guilty about being a bad friend.

So this week – CATCH UP WITH YOUR CALLS & MESSAGES!

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Week #1: CATCH UP WITH CALLS/MESSAGES!

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